Thursday, 7 August 2014

Emotional intelligence

Every day living is an emotional experience and moments for females of all ages. 

Everyday we live on the edge or in fullness of an emotion which may either be borne out of experience, situations or long tales shared by someone believed by so many.

Aggravated, grumpy, defensive, radiant, dejected, joyous, overwhelmed, jealous,zealous, ever cranky, moody, depressed, confident, elated, never satisfied, happy, envious, always visibly annoyed, resourcefully happy, comfortable, composed, good natured, dejected, emotionally imbalance,easily irritated, understanding, agitated, unease, argumentative, frustratingly simple, frustrated, determined,purposeful e.t.c.
Emotion guides everything we do. We are wired up with emotions that if not rightly checked can either make or break us.

To navigate life challenges and stand out as exceptionally as we want, our emotions must be
played intelligently, which means, you must understand your self and your emotions.

Emotional Intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage our behavior, manage other people, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.

Our formation could be wrong, due to habits and childhood traumas or experiences,but once we learn to read the language of our emotions, we no longer need to linger on negative emotional hangups for hours, for days, for months and for a lifetime.

Emotion impacts everything you say or do each day and predicts your performance in the workplace as well as being the strongest driver of leadership and personal excellence. Having love, happiness and success depends on the ability to create and maintain good emotions.

It is not a skill that can be taught at school. It can not be used as an assessment for promotion in school, but it is definitely what is required to get to the next level in life. No one will be willing to put the money on a cranky employee and no one wants a nagging woman ,nor prefer an obnoxious employer, or a dejected and highly irritant team member. No one definitely want a woman or man who categorizes everyone due to past experiences.

We all get angry, have disappointments, feel frustrated, want to express love, be happy and we often express our emotions to let people know how we feel. Learning to manage emotions, is important - by learning how to use these emotions in ways that serve us rather than letting it run or ruin our lives. One can inevitably learn to stay calm under pressure, be more effective in our work and more influential with those around us.

Emotions are powerful but they do not have to overpower our lives.

Life does not fall flat on lack of good books skills, life fall flat on the lack of strong emotional skills which is the inability to read your own feelings, control your impulses, calm down and maintain resolve and hope in the face of setbacks.

Life is good; It can be good; It will be good , when you learn to deal with your emotions and the emotion of others without having negative attitudes.

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Funmi Akerele
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Tuesday, 5 August 2014

Article

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Thursday, 19 June 2014

The scars that make us beautiful!

I know about accidents. I have seen accidents. The fatal ones, the tear-guts and all likes; I once had an accident, but none of these accidents have made impact on me like the ones that left horrible scars.  The aftermath, the recuperation, the denial, the resignation, all form the visible and invisible scars that mar our beauty.  I know of scars that never heal, I know of scars that heal faster than the “scarer”, and I also know of scars that heal completely without medication.

Everyone has a scar.
Everyone carries scar.
Everyone deals with their scars differently.

Tell me what I dont know; that the scars left by a pain can be easily forgotten? One thing I know is “it is dangerous to abandon one’s self to the luxury of grief: It deprives one of courage and even of the wish for recovery”.

Eryca Freemantle had no idea of what destiny or the over 200 scars that mar her face will do to her life, after her near death accident. At that time physicians, psychologist, parents, friends, colleagues, all saw a scarred face and body that is not acceptable in the modelling profession. She saw the like at first until she learnt to fight the horrors of the scars that would have tarnished her beauty.  Left with loss of hair, a near amputation of her left leg, undergone five fibroid operations, with a 3 years agonizing and resented solitude, after being told she will never walk again,and worst of all over 200 scars to her face. 

 With sheer deetrmination, she was motivated to learn about corrective make-up techniques and applications to camouflage facial blemishes and scarring. Accepting she could not pursue modelling, she decided to become a make-up artist. Her story is an amazing and inspirational one. Her positive attitude towards life encouraged her determination to proceed and be successful. It was her motivation that gave her the courage to embrace her beauty at a time of such low self-esteem. She had to make and design her own make-up, to disguise her scarred face because of the inavailability of makeup in the UK for black women, much less black women with imperfections. So she got some mud from the garden, mixed it with water and put it on her face. That was her first ever experience with makeup. It didn’t look good, but it made her feel better because it covered the scars for a little while.

To so many people, courage in the face of disaster is a no good, yet this inspiring woman used the powder of hope to smoothen the imperfection of her scars. She understood how to deal with the roots of her scars and ultimately learnt to use her tweezers of elegance to pluck free the inner scars that may be more visible that the outer scars. Her self realization mirrored the knowledge that guided her perfections of her scars, she knew without doubts that once she couldn’t feel it, then she wouldn’t see it and yes, we wouldn’t see it.

Today, Eryca is an acclaimed make-up artist and industry expert. She has researched the make-up artist industry intensely, travelled the globe, looking at trends and predictions. Through her research she was able to identify that she had something unique and very much in demand to offer, slightly more than the average make up artist. She has specialist industry knowledge combined with traumatic experiences, which is why she is known as a “survivor.” She is an award-winning celebrity and international make-up artist, industry intelligence, consultant, educator, author, corrective make-up specialist, trend setter, key note and motivational speaker. Eryca motivates, encourages, unites and emotionally lifts people of all ages and genders. She has a glamorous approach to fashion, photography, beauty and corrective make-up. Eryca Freemantle is a Lifestyle Guru, an award-winning, celebrity whose positive attitude towards life encouraged her determination to proceed and be successful.

 Her life is a lesson for those whose palms still hold lines they can trace; if you hold out on the invitation to create your own beauty techniques in covering your scars, chances are that you will miss the compliments of life and the success story. A little dab of your astringent may not be enough, the discovery of your foundation may seems futile, but you can learn to loose yourself in the beauty of your powder, and let the right application of all corrective measures give you the best chances at covering your scars.

Who knows about your scars, who sees your fears, who hears the near trembling voice everytime you approach the podium, who wants a list of your past failures, who cares about your limitations. No one decides if you get the seat at the high table. Don’t let anyone play dragon with your scars, cover them the best you could and be the best you can.  Our scars are not the ones the world see, they are not the ones we know, but the ones we acknowledge. The visibility is not the problem, but the acceptance is the disease.
This is not to say we must indulge in corrective measures to cover a fool’s dungeon but to solve the inner impediments that are causing the outside breakouts.
It’s hard. It’s near impossible. It’s overwhelming.

 But you need your own “awesomeness”. Most times we have the solutions in our hands, but we throw away the mantle of our own success because we are scarred, we have been scarred or because of some scars.

Eryca Freemantle says "every woman has the right to simple make-up and fitness regime that enhances her natural beauty. All women are beautiful."

I know that everyone has a scar.
Everyone carries scar.
You need a technique to work out your scars, believe me.

Salute to this wonderful and courageous woman, Eryca Freemantle, as she joins our list of the “SASSY, SMART and SUCCESSFUL”.

It’s indeed an honour to write and share her story with you.

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(C) Funmi Akerele
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Saturday, 24 May 2014

#BringBackOurGirls

There will never be a generation of great men until there has been a generation of free women -- of free mothers.
- Robert G. Ingersoll. 

#BringBackOurGirls

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Friday, 23 May 2014

MOTIVES



 The butterfly attractiveness derives not only from colours and symmetry: deeper motives contribute to it. - Primo Levi.

Succeessful people are regular people.  Some had the same amount of opportunities while others had none.
Their similarities are not hidden, yet difficult for some to see. Some see their successes as a carbon copy while others copy their successes to the carbon.

Ideas are different inspirations given on different platforms for differnt reasons to satisfy different purposes. Two ideas may look the same but none is totally like the other except copied and pasted. Thus, inspirations or ideas left unactivated will go away; Perhaps the law of gravity.  

Our ability to receive and work with any idea is expantiated by the tale of the sower; only those who receive the dreams, develop the passsion and worked at it have the similarities seen in succesful people.
I once asked in ignorance, are some born successful? Yes they are born,and re-created themselves for a reason.

I know beyond doubt that being succesful is not a priviledge, it is not a gift, it is not a joke, but it is the rightful application of the difference between the non- succseful and the succesful.
This simlarity or difference as the case maybe is called - MOTIVE.

The motive for working that idea when no one else believed in you, when all circumstances seem to deprived you of sanity.
I work hard day and night to see that girls and women have enough inspirations, knowledge and motivation to be able to change their lives for the best.  It is a service for me. It is a job for others and if done by two people our motives are different and our result will definetely be different.

What drives what you do? What is the underlying reason? A banker with enough customer service aptitiude to draw people to come back again- It is not her bank, but maybe one day it will be the basis of her idea to see that people are made happy wherever they are offered great services. To be succesful is not a day’s job. It is a continious raise of the motives that drove you into wanting to be succesful. If you raise your heels every time with the right motives, it might just be the beginning of success for you.  

Dare to be successful; stand up everyday and do that which you should do, perhaps situations maynot be the best reasons for doing that but your heels should be tinged with enough aptitude, resolutions, humility, assertiveness, sassyness, knowledge, optimism, prudence, creativity, smartness, confidence and tenacity to work with your motives. It’s a brand new day each morning, perhaps your heels knows that, perhaps not.

#yoursuccessmotives.

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(C) Funmi Akerele

Monday, 5 May 2014

Bring Back Our Girls.

The most unbearable pain of a mother is the pains of a missing child. The wails of a parent, the disgust of a nation, the cries of a people, the travails of different classes, the pandemonium of a number of voices, the wilderness criers, the town shakers and the silent weepers; the shame of a government without a voice.

I have watched too many American movies and have seen the real performances of its government when a citizen is abducted.  Not once, not twice, was a group of captured soldiers left to their fate without the faith and actions of its government fighting to bring them back.

In most cases there are assumptions; assumptions are not certainties, yet uninhibited assumptions could be a certainty. If I assume that a government left 234 of its army for over 2 weeks to the fate of terrorism, people who plague and look for undesereved attention, and then I can assume that the soldiers in this saga are more than ransome. Innocent people the government easily left unattended to. It would be fatal for the government to overlook the urgency of this saga.

Assumptions are strong; they form the basis for some truths. They can be formed, founded, traced and identified. They may be certainty or uncertainty, yet they are pointers...

The best government in the world does not give up its citizens to the slaughter and wait till the outcry of its people get unbearably high octave before answers are given. There is no romance without a relationship; there is no government without people. The understanding of such facts makes us wonder and assume if indeed our soldiers were not actually meants for the gallows in which they found themselves.

The exremist have given us a slap and the dangers of non-retaliation or no attempt will be a reoccurence of more dangerous sagas. Senseless though we may call their fanaticsm, but it was not without sense for the organisers as this was done with a purpose and according to the plan it was meant for. It is indeed clear that there is a reason. Nothing is really nothing unless you would rather be doing something else.

We face no more serious decisions in Nigeria today than the decisions to go after our abducted girls. Do we need a debate to ask for the whereabout of humans? Possibly a roundtable discussion, strategies and actions, but a debate of no action is a sail for another direction.

There is no confusion in our assumptions, no uncertainty in our feelings, no discrepancies in our belief of injustice meted upon the handling of the matters of the abduction.
Yet ...our girls are there.

It is a possible assumption that our girls would ask themselves what their fate is in a country where their fellows are carted away in the middle of the night? .The girls yet to come and even those who don’t understand what is going on presently and who will assume that it is possible to be kidnapped by some demented association in the mid of the night while studying for examination and carted away to be made sex slaves, wives  of bandits, slaves for lives and earn an undeserved future of terrorism, daily rape, assault, beatings and also be made witnesess to an untowards an unreasonalbe belief for a diluted religious beliefs.

Accordingly to Tony Blair in his speech on the London bombings “the extremist mission is cleverly aimed at their target audience. Their cause is not founded on an injustice. It is founded on a belief, one whose fanatiscm is such that can’t be moderated. It can’t be remedied. It has to be stood up to.
Omar Nelson Bradley rightly posited when he said “unless one values the lives of his soldiers and is tormented by their ordeal he is unfit to command”.

One man’s tears; one woman’s wail make assumptions powerfull... they form the basis to the truth, for in the senate of grasses two elephants fight in a forest, the carcas of the defeated is just what the grasses await.
Then the assumptions again; to what or whose gain is the terrorism in this country?

Assumptions are strong... stronger than what we are fed with.

But our consolation is that all the people of the world are in partner with our interest and our cries for our daughters to be brought back, and for our part as a people we see clearly that unless justice is done for our girls, the injustice of the terrorist beliefs with politcal and governmental unmedicated actions will ruin our land.
#BringBackOurGirls.

(C) Funmi Akerele

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Monday, 31 March 2014

PINK AMBITION

Why do girls and women need to be educated and motivated? 
The answers are not lost on us and on the different issues we see happen everyday. For some women and girls, if they knew that the more confident they are, most times the more they are focused and the more they achieve. A total woman started from a girl child who knew and appreciated her strength and understood her weakness to develop herself, her self esteem, her potentials and much more importantly her life to become who she is meant to be.

With a deep and strong focus on developing the girl child into a confident, esteemed and well inspired to take more than a leap into achieving her goals; Pink Ambition believes that education without its proper application, focused inspiration, and self assesment is like creating a produt without its mechanics. 
Inspiration; knowledge based inspiration is every where but oblivious to those who do not seek or searh for it. We strongly believe that the special ingredients amongst others, that will make any woman or girl different lies in our philosophy: “P.I.N.K” (Purpose, Inspiration, Newness and Knowledge).
This four special ingridient is worth aiming for. These ingridients are central to every girl and woman ambition so as to be able to live well, lead, achieve, succeed and become who she is meant to be.                                                                            

Pink Ambition believes that all female, irrespective of their status, age and educational backgrounds are change agents and in our hands is the power and the opportunities the world needs. To achieve this, we help create inspirations to help girls and women succeed; edu- inspirational programmes to help them believe, seek for knowledge and open viable and positive opportunities for themseles.

We understand that women need life, we need strength and we need passion, but exclusively those are not enough. Life gives strength to passion and committed passion births opportunities through knowledge. And thus every well meaning female should seek to find their purpose, create inspiration for themseles, be creative with new ideas to move forward and never forget that knowledge is profitable in all things.

We do not believe in empowernment without education and continuos inspiration to help create the desired result, and that is why we constantly touch the lives of girls and women in many ways through our numerous edu-motivational programmes that leave no lives untouched and leave no touched lives without result oriented followups.
Pink Ambition is an initiative of take hills educational services (www.takehills.org), an organization that is passionate about the plights and even passion of every female all over the world.
Remember...Believe...Knowledge...Opportunities (Pink Ambition)

(For all Female)

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up to something!

Physicists and astronomers see their own implications in the world being round, but to me it means that only one-third of the world is asleep at any given time and the other two-thirds is up to something. - Dean Rusk.

Either you sleep, either its death, either its half awake, either its dead slumber, either it is dead knocked out or sleep walk, either its a nap or a little rest down the river side, all are up to something- SLEEP.

What are you UP to today, now, later, then, tomorrow? We must all be up to something?

Never stop being
up to something!

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What drives you beyond your lip talks?

If a woman is sufficiently ambitious, determined and gifted - there is practically nothing she can't do." - Helen Lawrenson

P- Purpose; a female's passion, and also entails what she wants to do about it. A woman is identified not only by how she is but by who she is. Your quirks; your personality. Your passion. What oils your weakness and strength, and compel your attention because you cannot just stop being involve in it. What drives you? How do you drive it, why are you driving it and where are you heading to? That is PURPOSE.

I- Inspiration; Can be those soft knowledge she hears and sees; that touches her stance and oils her determination to succeed. Sometimes she feels it can’t be done, but with those nuggets she is inspired to move on. Stories from females all over the worlds who had defied the common reasons and excuses and have transported their businesses into a worthy destination or unto a worthy destination. Not just stories but Facts. That is INSPIRATION.

N- Newness; yes they say there is nothing new under the sun, yet ideas keep ruling the world. It could be the ideas of yester-years yet horned to fit into the present. Innovative, out-of the box ideas, that can grow bigger sizes than the originator. You never grow tired of it. When your idea(S) is people connected, you have no reasons to fail. Women are wonderfully made; good managers both at the home-front (even office front. ***winks***) and every other places that matters. They never fail to churn great ideas to save the day. We call it NEWNESS.

K- Knowledge. Wisdom is profitable in all things; in all thy doings, PLEASE get wisdom! It is very important. We all need knowledge, good strategies to succeed in the stifling business environment. It is the knowledge we exhibit, that will set us apart. We cannot use the knowledge of the fifties to succeed in the nineties. Any female wanting to succeed needs to learn the tools of the business and whatever positive actions it will take to succeed. If it means learning everything all over again it is worth the effort. Success is not a rough cut; it is earned. So we bring hard nuts, facts, figures, opinions, advice, and times premonitions we can all share. No one is an island. If it works for some, it can work for us all. Knowledge is important. No one celebrate a princess without a tiara. That is KNOWLEDGE.

What drives you beyond your lip talks?

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